How to Control the Mind?

The word ‘mind’ (मन) can be broken down into two syllables: म + न = मन. म represents ‘I,’ and न means ‘not,’ together signifying ‘not I.’ Here, ‘I’ refers to the soul. Therefore, when something goes against the soul’s nature, it is governed by the mind. This doesn’t mean that the soul isn’t active, but its decisions are influenced by desires, habits, and ingrained tendencies instead of its natural essence.

The Difference Between Desire and Necessity

Our daily actions stem from either desires or necessities. Every necessity is a desire, but not every desire is a necessity. The key to understanding the mind lies in distinguishing between these two. For instance, consider drinking water. When asked why you’re drinking, the answers could be either, “I felt like it,” indicating desire, or “I was thirsty,” indicating necessity. The entire game of the mind is to discern between desire and necessity.

Why the Mind is Stubborn

Often, we know a particular action isn’t a necessity but merely a desire. Yet, we feel compelled to act. For example, you’re not hungry, but seeing an array of desserts makes your mouth water. Despite knowing better, you might indulge. The mind is stubborn, like a wild horse; if left uncontrolled, it can derail your time, health, and life. However, when reined in, it can lead you to greatness and success.

“The mind is a powerful servant but a dangerous master.”

Anonymous

Steps to Control the Mind

1. Persuade the Mind

When the mind insists on something unnecessary or influenced by desires, reason with it. Show it past consequences of similar actions and the potential future losses if it continues. Explain the benefits and harms clearly.

2. Use Determination

When reasoning fails, fight determination with determination. Challenge your mind by treating bad habits as enemies. Use strong willpower to declare, “You can’t dictate my life. I’ll decide what happens.”

3. Challenge Bad Habits

An inspiring story of Swami Ram Tirtha illustrates this. While passing a stall selling hot jalebis daily, his mind craved them. Despite financial constraints, he bought jalebis one day, took them home, and hung them on a string. He didn’t eat them but left them to rot, eventually feeding them to insects. This act symbolized his ability to overcome cravings and strengthen his resolve.

Moral

The mind can either be your greatest ally or your most dangerous enemy. Understanding the distinction between desires and necessities, reasoning with the mind, and using determination when necessary are the keys to mastering it. The story of Swami Ram Tirtha exemplifies the power of self-control and challenges in the journey to personal mastery.